You don’t want to offend anybody with the presumption of sex, but you also want to know that you will be sexually compatible.
But for gay men, determining if you’re sexually compatible requires you to ask a very personal question: “Are you a top, bottom, or vers?”īecause dating is outrageously nuanced and there is no set of rules to abide by (multiply that by 10 if you’re queer!), it can be difficult to determine when such a question is appropriate and how it should be phrased. Sexual chemistry is important for any relationship.
